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Frequently Asked Questions
The most common question surrounding domestic abuse is simply Why?
What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is defined as physical violence or other abuse in a domestic setting. It is also referred to as intimate partner violence, domestic violence, or relationship abuse.
Is this abuse?
If your partner physically harms you, then it is abuse.
If your partner use words, sex, money, or threats to hurt and control you, then it is abuse.
No matter how or why it happens, it is never ok.
Love should never hurt.
Why do people abuse others?
Very simply: Hurt people hurt people.
Domestic abuse is about control and power. The abuser feel that it is his (or her) right to control the other party. This may be learned behavior (growing up in an abusive household) or retaliatory behavior (abuser was once abused). It may even just be a personality flaw (abuser feels that his (or her) feelings are priority.
Either way, domestic abuse is wrong and not normal.
Why do people stay in abusive relationships?
Leaving is the most dangerous actions of domestic abuse. Domestic violence is about power and control; a victim leaving is a symbol of the abuser’s loss of control.
According to The National Domestic Violence Hotline, it takes a victim 7 times before leaving permanently.
Reasons for staying include:
- Lack of Money/Resources
- Embarrassment or Shame
- Believing Abuse is Normal
- Cultural/Religious Reasons
- Fear of Being Outed
- Low Self-Esteem
- Language Barriers/Immigration Status
Am I in an abusive relationship?
Does your Partner…
- threaten you, scream at you, throw or break things?
- become jealous, sick or angry when you try to spend time with family or friends?
- slap, pinch, shove, kick, hit or punch you?
- force you to have sex?
- try to control where you go and what you do?
- withhold affection or punish you with the silent treatment?
- threaten to have your child/children taken away from you and/or hurt the child/children?
- insist the abuse was your fault?
- make you feel afraid by using looks, actions gestures or a loud voice?
- threathen to commit suicide if you try to break up/leave?
- blame you when becoming angry or losing control?
What are the types of abuse?
Domestic abuse is not only physical. It can include emotional abuse, sexual abuse and economic abuse.
Emotional abuse THE USE OF WORDS, VOICE, ACTION OR LACK OF ACTION MEANT TO CONTROL, HURT OR DEMEAN ANOTHER PERSON
Sexual abuse SEXUAL BEHAVIOR MEANT TO CONTROL, MANIPULATE, HUMILIATE, OR DEMEAN ANOTHER PERSON
Economic abuse ONE PARTNER HAS CONTROL OVER THE OTHER PARTNER’S ACCESS TO ECONOMIC RESOURCES, LIMITING THE OTHER’S ABILITY TO SUPPORT HERSELF AND RENDERING HER DEPENDENT ON THE ABUSER
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